• Step 1:  Identify your Desire:  Use contrasting thoughts to help you decide what you really do desire.
• Step 2:  Give your Desire Attention:  Reword your affirmations to make them feel better.

These ideas are excerpts from Michael J. Losier’s book “Law of Attraction:  The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t”. 

So, today:  Step 3:  Allowing.

Sounds simple doesn’t it?  Just allow the Law of Attraction to happen!  Whew… that was easy, guess I’m done!

Well, maybe not.

For me, the allowing part is actually the most difficult.  Mr. Losier says that most people just don’t understand this step – that’s probably very true.  However, even after reading his book and all his good ideas, this step was (is) still a difficult one for me.

As I said in part 2, basically the Law of Attraction works on the principal of what you’re currently focusing on you attract more of.  It doesn’t matter if this focus is conscious or unconscious.  Just when we think the Law of Attraction ISN’T working to get us what we want – it really is – we’re just sending the wrong message without even realizing it!

Well, in part 3, we’ve figured out how to feel better about what we’re desiring, but we haven’t tackled the unconscious thoughts we all have when we seem to be “wishing” for something.  “Wishing” implies that it’s an unlikely possibility, but remotely possible.  This is where the Law of Attraction blocker, Doubt, comes in.

As soon as you have any doubts about whether this desire is really going to happen for you, you’re blocking or at least inhibiting the Law of Attraction from attracting what you desire.

Remove any doubt = Law of Attraction attracts what you desire.

How do you remove the doubt?

Mr. Losier suggests using third person statements to reword blocking statements.  He also gives a great hint as to how to determine your blocking statements or limiting beliefs.  He says that your limiting beliefs can be found in a statement where you use the word “because” or “I can’t because…”.  For example, I have a tendency to say to myself “I can’t lose weight because I’m just built this way.”

So, Mr. Losier’s suggestion is to rewrite these limiting beliefs – but do this in the third person.  For example, I would reword mine to say something like: “Millions of people lose weight and become healthier everyday.”

Here is where I’d like to add my own little touch.  I’ve added the phrase “even me!” to the end of these statements – to make them feel more real to me.  So my new statement would be: “Millions of people lose weight and become healthier everyday – even me!”

You can do this with ANY aspect of your life: finances, relationships, school, etc…

Tomorrow I want to wrap up this discussion by giving you some examples of how I’ve seen the Law of Attraction at work in my life.

Because of the limited time it’s available, I feel I must suggest you visit www.117selfimprovementgifts.com.  This place has hundreds of self-improvement articles, eBooks, and MP3 files for immediate download for free. I highly recommend you take a look.

So, how did it go?  Were you able to write down things you don’t want in some area(s) of your life and THEN cross them out one by one as you rephrased them in terms of what you DO want?

If you followed this step GREAT!  Next, step 2 from Michael J. Losier’s book “Law of Attraction:  The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t”. 

Step 2 is basically: Give your desires attention.  Now, I’m not going to go into all the details here (you can read Mr. Losier’s book for that).  However, I am going to give you a quick summary and focus on the specific part of topic that really caught my attention.

Basically, the Law of Attraction works on the principal of what you’re currently focusing on you attract more of.  It doesn’t matter if this focus is conscious or unconscious. 

Just when we think the Law of Attraction ISN’T working to get us what we want – it really is – we’re just sending the wrong message without even realizing it!

How is this possible?  Well… we’ll go into a LOT of detail on this in part 3, but what’s relevant now is how a particular statement of desire actually makes you FEEL – sending out feelings/emotional responses is what the Law of Attraction really reacts to.

For example, I would love to lose about 40 pounds.  So, my desire might be stated as “I have a healthy, toned, lean body.” (By the way – note the present tense used here – this is very important.) 

The problem is that when I read those words I have a tendency to retort “Yeah right, lean body.  What me?  This marshmallow?”  Unfortunately, this is how I REALLY feel and this is what the Law of Attraction reacts to – bringing me more of the same “marshmallow-me”.

To quote directly from Mr. Losier’s book pg. 58, “A positive affirmation can have a negative vibration [feeling/emotional response].  Most affirmations don’t work because the Law of attraction doesn’t respond to words – it responds to how you feel about the words you use.”

Boy!  Is this ever me!  So, Mr. Losier then goes on to suggest that since this affirmation isn’t really true to me – it brings on that statement of negativity and doubt – then I need to rephrase it to MAKE it true.

His golden key is:  Use the phrase “I’m in the process of ______”.

So, my desire/affirmation statement would be better phrased as “I am in the process of having a healthy, toned, lean body.”  Then I find myself responding, “Yes, I AM in the process of having this body – it’s not here yet, but I’m working on it!” (And, more importantly, the Law of Attraction is working on the right thing, too.)

Mr. Losier also takes the readers through a very thorough worksheet of creating Desire Statements and raising your awareness/attention toward what you really desire.

So, your homework for step 2 is to think of other ways to state what you desire so that it is in the present tense and is TRUE for you now.

Tomorrow – Step 3:  Allow It to Happen

Because of the limited time it’s available, I feel I must suggest you visit www.117selfimprovementgifts.com.  This place has hundreds of self-improvement articles, eBooks, and MP3 files for immediate download for free. I highly recommend you take a look.

I don’t know about you, but in the past I rarely seemed to have much success with it – although I admit I was ever hopeful that it will work.  My biggest hurdle was in over-coming my nagging skepticism that it’s all just a bunch of new-age-mumbo-jumbo and couldn’t possibly have any real value to it.

Well, I was at one of my favorite local used bookstores, Renaissance, the other day and I found a small book on the Law of Attraction by Michael J. Losier called “Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t”.  Out of curiosity, I pulled it from the shelf and flipped through a few pages.  I expected it to be just the same as all the other books I’ve seen on the subject – here’s what you do, here’s how it’s supposed to work. 

Here’s the unique thing that caught my eye – this book actually instructs you in just 3 steps HOW to implement the ideas behind the Law of Attraction.  I was totally intrigued and purchased the book.

I’m going to share with you bits and pieces of what I’ve learned and encourage you to purchase this book if you’re serious about implementing the Law of Attraction in your life.

In the first part of his book, Mr. Losier discusses a great many things about the history of attraction science and why it sometimes doesn’t seem to work.

However, the meat of his text discusses what he calls “The 3–Step Formula for Deliberate Attraction”.  This three step process is wonderful!  Mr. Losier does a great job explaining in detail with examples HOW you actually can implement attracting what you WANT.

In today’s post, I want to talk about step one: Identifying your Desire.  Mr. Losier discusses how sometimes it IS helpful to look at what you DON’T want in order to give clarity to what you DO want.

For example, in my life, I don’t like having “more month at the end of my money” – if you know what I mean! So my contrast would be that I DO like always having enough money to buy what I need and what would make my life more enjoyable.

My “assignment” for you would be:  Do as Mr. Losier suggests, write down what you don’t want, then rephrase it in terms of what you DO want.  Cross out the old statements, forget about them, and concentrate on the new statements.

With your desires more clearly defined and your thoughts focused on them, then the “Law of Attraction” will guide THOSE things in your direction. 

For more information on the Law of Attraction as well as many other self-improvement products, visit the 117 Self-Improvements Giveaway.  It’s only available for a limited time, so be sure to check it out today!

Tomorrow – Part 2 – Step Two – Give Your Desire Attention

Let’s say that you picked cleaning out the trash from the car {note: I didn’t say “cleaning the car” - that’s a bigger job - just get the clutter/trash out of there.}  Or you picked making a phone call to someone you’ve been putting off for whatever reason.

Now.  You did it!  It’s “Miller Time!”.  Seriously, stop. Take a moment.  Revel in what you just accomplished.  Ok, so you didn’t conquer global warming… geez… it doesn’t matter the “size” of the task - sometimes it’s just the fact that you actually DID something is quite an accomplishment.

Now, to some of you out there, this is going to seem plain silly.  Right up there with the “Make your bed” post, hmm?  Well, for many of us with “energy drain” issues this can be quite an accomplishment. 

So, I haven’t mentioned reward yet, have I?  Well, here’s the reward - a great big mental pat on the back.  I’m serious!  When you’re standing there quietly for just a moment, smile to yourself and FEEL how good it is to have started, done, and completed just one thing.  And QUIT beating yourself up about how small it was, that it didn’t really matter, or any of the hundreds of self-defeating things we tell ourselves.

This time your reward is worth more than any money, better for you than any drug, and feels better than… well… you get my meaning!  Feeling good about something you did and actually praising yourself for it is the best thing you can do for yourself - ever.

So, thank you, Cheryl Richardson for writing about Energy Drains and inspiring these last few blogs.

Tomorrow…. on to other topics.  What shall I pick?

Sometimes they can be bigger rather than little, hmm?  But, they’re energy drainers all the same.

So, what do you do?  How do you start plugging the “energy drain” so that you can keep more energy in your life?

First of all - you pick ONE.  Just ONE - an easy one, please.  (Don’t try to tackle your problems with your mother-in-law or your boss first, ok?)  For example, that subscription you’ve been meaning to cancel.  The phone call to a friend you’ve been meaning to make.  Get out the WD-40 and spray it on the hinges of that squeaky door.  Go get a trash sack and clean out all the trash out of the car.  Whatever.  Just SOMETHING. 

In other words - TAKE ACTION.  DO SOMETHING. You will be absolutely amazed at how good just one small 5 minute (or less) act can make you feel.

This goes back to my post from the other day - you know, the one where you thought I’d lost my mind - where I said, “Make your bed every day.”

Well… the principal is the same.  Just tackle one thing at a time.  One thing.  Take action.

Tomorrow - next step.  The Reward!

By the way, have you been over to the 117 Give Away yet?  If stress is getting to you, there are an awful lot of freebies there - meditation, self-hypnosis, diets, excercise tips, and all sorts of inspirational (religious, spiritual) and motivational free ebooks to download.  Please check it out - it really is free - just sign up.  I highly recommend it.

Stop and think about that.  What little things are you constantly thinking about?  Then what things are you saying to yourself “Oh, I’ll take care of that later - it’s not a big deal.”  For example, a squeaky door hinge or a pile of junk by the door.

Every time you have to go through the process of: 1) Recognize the problem  2)  Tell yourself to just ignore it for now  3) then proceed to “block” it out.  This may only take a few seconds. 

BUT - what if this happens over and over and over during your day?  How many times will you have to repeat the process.  If you’re like me, it even gets to the point where you’re not even realizing that you’ve even gone through a process at all - it’s become an unconscious thought habit.  Those can be deadly! (Energy-wise, that is.)

So, in this first installment, I’d like to suggest that everyone out there list out all the little pesky things that keep bugging you every day.  Just write them down for now.

Tomorrow we’ll tackle ‘em!

In the mean time, I really would recommend a quick read through Cheryl’s book Take Time for Your Life.  She’s even been a guest multiple times on Oprah.

 Finally, I want to leave you with one last thought.  If you’re looking for some great ideas for all sorts of self-improvement help, there are literally TONS of free gifts - ebooks, articles, etc… at the www.117selfimprovementgifts.com giveaway.  I’d highly recommend checking it out - it doesn’t cost anything to look and all the motivational information contained there is priceless.

‘Till tamarra!

I’m going to share with you today just a tiny piece of advice I recieved from my grandmother many years ago.  “Make your bed everyday.”  What??!  Yes, I’m serious.  Make your bed.  I know… I know… What in the blue-blazes does this have to do with stress?? with anxiety?? with all the “important” things in my life??

Nothing.  Everything.

Just think about this for a minute:  If one small part of your world is in order, under your control, and looks nice, then the rest won’t seem quite so insurmountable.

Strange thought, hmm?

Motivation to do something - is a powerful force for your benefit OR for your detriment. 

So, make your bed (first thing in the morning is best).  After you’ve pulled up the comforter, straightened out the wrinkles, and fluffed up your pillows, step back for a moment and admire your accomplishment.  Take a deep breath.  Tell yourself: “There’s one thing done.  Good Job.  Now, let’s take on the next one!” Take another slow deep breath, smile, and believe me - your day will feel so much more in control.

 Very strange, I know - but believe me - It WORKS!  Just try it - you’ll see!

Thanks, Grandma for that piece of advice:  “Make your bed everyday.”  I still love you so much and miss you everyday.